|Posted on November 20, 2016 at 12:20 AM|
4 Reasons Why It Is Okay to Go Solo
By Tracy Darity
A few months ago a friend and I were at a concert when we saw a woman arrive alone. My friend asked me if I would go to an event alone. I chuckled because I thought she knew me well enough to know I have no problem going solo. I go to lunch, shopping, community events, and concerts by myself; mainly because I know when I get there I will encounter like-minded individuals. I reminded her of a time that I posted on Facebook about the Alvin Ailey Dance Company, and she said she was there with her daughter and grand-daughter…well I went there alone.
During the conversation I shared with her a story about someone who wanted to attend a concert in her city. The act was someone she had never seen before and was fearful it may be her last chance to see him. She really wanted to be there but didn’t know anyone who wanted to attend. I was like girl, that arena holds 70,000 people, I am sure a few of them will be people you know. She quickly added that she wanted to go with someone, you know sit next to someone she knew.
I told my friend what I told this person, you can’t miss opportunities that are important to you because someone else doesn’t share your same interest. A lot of the times that I go solo are because I’ve made a last minute decision…literally. However, if I ask a couple of people to hang-out with me and no one is interested, I’m not going to use that as a reason to stay home. So, if you are about to deny yourself a trip to your favorite restaurant or miss-out on an artist you adore, remember this:
You really won’t be alone
Like the person who was going to miss the chance to see an icon in concert, there were going to be 69,999 other fans there. People she shared a common interest with by default. At concerts people are there to enjoy the person on stage. Once the entertainer walks out it is all eyes on him and her, you’ll be having such a good time you won’t even care if a friend is next to you.
You’ll meet new people
I have never left a concert or event without having a friendly exchange with the person next to me; doesn’t matter if I am there solo or with someone. In some cases we have even exchanged contact information or become acquaintances via social media. One of three things will likely happen when you go unaccompanied. One, the people on either side of you will feel like they have to be friendly because you obviously don’t have good friends in your life, otherwise they would have sacrificed to come with you (just joking). Two, the people next to you are just really friendly people and they will include you in their group, because they believe the more the merrier (most likely to happen). Or three, you’ll come out of your shell because the entertainer is singing your favorite song and it’s also the person next to you, favorite song. Or, the speaker has said something so awe-inspiring you turn to your neighbor just to say “wow.” Either way, by the end of the night you will have forgotten that you arrived alone, and will have made a new acquaintance (very common occurrences).
You may never get this chance again
Earlier this year Prince Rogers Nelson transitioned from this life. I am still in disbelief that he is gone. Can you even imagine your all-time favorite artist, someone you have idolized since you were 12 years old, coming to town and you not going to their concert because your friends couldn’t make it? Even more tragic, what if a year or two later that person died? Oh honey no, tomorrow isn’t promised to any of us, so don’t you dare allow rare moments to escape you over small stuff. Think of it this way, even if you attend an event with someone, what is the guarantee that he or she is even going to enjoy it the way that you do.
On dining alone
This is something I find myself doing more and more. I love to eat, I love going to different places and trying new things, but a lot of people are stuck on chain restaurants. One thing I love about where I live is that we are catching up with the world and restaurants are offering outside seating. Don’t want to feel alone, pull out your smartphone or tablet and watch your favorite shows on your favorite app, or turn to youtube and pull up some videos. You know, make like you’re in your kitchen or out on your patio. Lately, I’ve seen broadcasters on Periscope going to restaurants alone and doing live scopes while waiting for their food. Some even chow down while chatting with viewers. A few have even landed sponsorships from businesses to come in and scope while eating, showing the world how great their food and service is.
At the end of the day, we only live once. There is a big world out there for us to explore and no one can have your experience but you. Let go of the norms and allow yourself to see life in a different way, and take time to converse with people you never would have noticed if you had shown up with a companion.
So what say you? Do you ever go solo? Have you missed out on doing something you love because no one else was interested? Did you become friends with someone you met while hanging out alone? I would love to know your point of view. Also, check-out my other blogs on A View From Tracy’s Point.
Peace and Blessings,
Tracy L. Darity is the author of three novels, He Loves Me He Loves Me Not!, Love...Like Snow in Florida on a Hot Summer Day, and The Red Bear Society. Available in print and e-book. To learn more, visit www.TracyLDarity.com or Amazon.com
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